Contact me

You can contact me at the Family Separation Clinic for appointments, consultations, discussions and further information.  We offer coaching by Skype to parents all over the world as well as a range of support services to families in the UK.

A wide range of resources and help for families where children are affected by alienation and related behaviour can also be found at the Family Separation Clinic 

Media enquiries should be made to office@familyseparationclinic.co.uk

 

6 thoughts on “Contact me

  1. Nigel J Ritchie (Swansea) says:

    Karen i have just reviewed your article most interesting! sadly I am going through this at present after a loving relationship with my children I have not seen my son for 3 years he is 17 and my daughter for a year she is now 9.
    I have spent nearly 20k in the courts to no avail. My ex wife is the source of the parental alienation of my children towards me. Up until 2007 I had a full active life in bringing up my children. Your work has certainly made me sit up – well done

  2. Rhys Gwynn says:

    This is a world apart from the attitude I encountered in court. Whilst agreeing wholeheartedly that the focus should be on the helping the child to cope with changed circumstances, the unpalatable reality is that the alienation does not just happen, it is more often pushed along by the would be resident parent. Courts seem reluctant to consider the deliberate misleading of a child to be a form of abuse even though the potentially severe outcomes noted in the video are well known, and regularly appear to forget that emotional abuse in law, even if not so obvious and more difficult to prove, is there on a par with physical abuse.

    What many parents know is that the ease with which the other parent can relocate merely facilitates the chances to further the alienation, either purposefully (aided often by the appalling inequality in state support to both parents) or by dint of cutting the other parent out of the child’s life to such an extent as to make that parent increasingly irrelevant to it. The law on relocation seems unacceptably confused with precedents being picked, depending entirely on a judge’s whims. It is rarely discussed properly. My MP, who sits on the Justice Select Committee which carried out the pre-legislative examination of the Children and Families Bill, appears to think that it is acceptable for the mother to relocate with the child if she claims (but does not need to prove) that she is seeking work, claims (but does not need to prove) that she wants family support or claims (but does not need to prove) to have found a better school, even if this is contrary to the child’s wishes or when there is no paternal abuse, or no existing educational deficiency and regardless of the impact of such instant distancing on the father child relationship. Expecting one parent, substantially cut out of a child’s life by the underhand tactics of the other, to somehow conquer the frequent depression that results, cope with extensive travelling at great cost and physical strain, retain a meaningful relationship with the child and reach some parenting agreement with the parent who has manufactured the alienation in the first place, is a very tall order. I wonder how you advise parents in such circumstances.

  3. LJ says:

    I think you are amazing, why can’t there be more of you. I started following you because I have one of the most amazing friends. She made a silly mistake nearlly three years ago. She lost everything, main thing being her son. Despite all she picked herself up and survives every day. The dad has done everything he can to stop their son wanting to see the mum. She hits a brick wall every day because of him. She regually receives hope from the legal system and child specialists. But It always ends the same and she can’t see her son. How can a child being washed fool so many professionals. You are her hope and inspiration.

  4. Robyn kliger says:

    I need advice ASAP.

    Thanks.
    Dr Robyn Kliger

  5. Marcia says:

    Dear Karen,
    I live on the fine line between estrangement and alienation.

    I would learn much if you could post your thoughts on how an estranged parent should attempt to reconnect with their child and how an aliented parent should attempt the same. I am curious about the overlap in action by the parent that is pushed out of their child’s life – for whatever reason.

    I have made some mistakes in parenting my middle-school child which might have lead to estrangement. I do have evidence of alientating behavior by his other parent. (I am an American, and middle school is our 6th through 8th grade or about 11 to 14 years old.) I am the mother. Until June 2014, I was the residential – custodial – parent.

    In December 2013, when my relationship with my child was disintegrating before my eyes, my therapist asked if she could have a session with my child. The end result of their interview was that my child met over half of Dr. Gardner’s benchmarks for alienation. I reacted with fear. I had told my child and the father that my child could move to the father’s home following the Christmas holiday. I changed my mind. My child returned to me in January – and would have nothing to do with me – no meals, no movies, no playing – nothing. Hence – I live on the fine line between estrangement and alienation. Since January, I continue to have concrete evidence of alientation by the father and step-mother.

    My child suffered and did not thrive in my home. I was boxed into the corner by the other adults and my state and county’s reluctance to litigate alienation. I agreed for my child to live with the father. My child would at least be where he wanted to be and might find happiness and relief from the severe hatred that my child demonstrated toward me.

    “Done is done.” I can’t change the past. I cannot undo that tipping point where my child felt betrayed by my changing my mind because I was betrayed by the father.

    I have learned much from your blog. I bet that I am not the only parent living on this fine line. Many of us want to learn how to walk down the road of reunification as an estranged-alientated parent. What do we do that’s the same and what do we do if we are only one of the above?

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