It’s a new dawn, a new day, a new life for FSC…

First post of 2016 and I am absorbed in the twin tasks of completing our new website and our book.  Today I am delighted to be able to announce the name of our new site which is called Parental Alienation Direct.  The site will launch shortly and alongside this our new book is now on the final lap before publication, 2016 is already shaping up to be the most exciting yet for the Family Separation Clinic.

Parental Alienation Direct is our new ‘baby’ and we are already playing the dutiful parents to the hilt as we make sure that the information we are making ready for you is clear and  sharp and as useful as it can possibly be.

We have guest writers on board who will write about Parental Alienation from all of the angles we know will be helpful to you. Barristers and Solicitors from the UK will write about managing your case in court, Mental Health Professionals with decades of experience in working with families, will discuss the elements that they look for in deciding whether a child is alienated and parents we have helped will write about how they coped and helped their children to heal after reunification.  All through the site we will be sharing our knowledge and skills with you so that you can become an alienation aware parent, making you more confident and more capable of coping with the painful experience of alienation from a much loved child.

We  also have formerly aligned parents with whom we have worked writing for Parental Alienation Direct.  These are parents who have worked alongside us to change their children’s minds and who understand how their child entered a rejecting position and what they did to encourage and support that. Our major focus at the Family Separation Clinic is to help children to have the healthiest relationships possible with both parents and to educate parents to understand how to achieve that.  Sometimes it is possible to recruit a naive alienating parent into a therapeutic alliance which brings change to children’s lives. For some of these parents the experience is so positive that they are keen to share their experiences with a wider audience.

Parental Alienation Direct is first and foremost a self help site for parents but it will also have a section for professionals who wish to understand more about how to help families affected by alienation.  One of the key aims for the Family Separation Clinic in 2016 is to build upon our successful 2015 training programme to professionals across the UK and the Republic of Ireland and we start this process early with CPD Seminars for Legal Professionals in conjunction with No5 Chambers in London on 21st January. This seminar is already sold out and we are planning similar deliveries across the country.  Parental Alienation Direct will have all of our information about upcoming training events for professionals in the UK so that you can share that with the professionals working with you.

The new site also has a section devoted to finding the right help for your case and will list those legal and mental health professionals with whom we work and who we know really understand the issue of parental alienation. We are putting as much information into your hands as we can so that you can make the right choices as early as possible. We know that this is how to beat parental alienation over the longer term.  Whilst we will focus upon working in the UK and Europe mostly, we will also list practitioners who we know are key in other countries and as the site grows, we will offer a section for you to add your own recommendations for people who can help.

Parental Alienation Direct is about you getting the help that you need and about helping yourself and each other.  Building upon the self help theme which has built up over the years on this site, we know that this will be a powerful resource for all alienated parents everywhere.

The majority of the site will be free to access but we are charging an annual fee for the use of the new help forums which will be hosted on the site. This is to cover the costs of hosting and managing these effectively.  Other charges will be for downloadable podcasts, articles, courses and webinars which we will be running in the second half of 2016.  At all times we will keep the costs for resources from the new site as low as possible, helping you to make the most of what we can offer for as little financial outlay as possible.

As we begin the process of bringing our new ‘baby’ into the world we will also continue to focus upon the development of the Family Separation Clinic and our court based services which are delivered across the UK.  We will also continue our coaching services which are now offered on three levels, basic support, specialist support and premium care. These are packages of help for parents who want to work with us to understand their case and manage the legal process. As coaches we work interactively  with legal professionals helping to build strategy and maintain focus.  This has been a core focus of our work in the past year and we will continue to develop this service to meet the needs of more parents.  This is a service which is available in the UK and across the world by Skype, you will find more about it at the Family Separation Clinic.

Parental Alienation Direct is owned and will be managed by the Family Separation Clinic as part of our commitment to delivering free and low cost support as widely as possible. Whilst we have to charge for our services from the Family Separation Clinic you will be able to access basic help, advice and guidance from Parental Alienation Direct.  What you must do is work out what is the most useful resource for you at any given time. Sections on Parental Alienation Direct will help you to do that.   As is the case at the Family Separation Clinic, all profits over and above what it costs to deliver and do this work are invested in research, training, publications and development of resources to meet your needs.  We want to make the lack of knowledge and acceptance of parental alienation a thing of the past and ourselves redundant with it, working this way is how we will achieve that, I hope that will be in my working lifetime.

Finally 2016 is designated by the Clinic as being a year in which we edcuate parents to understand parental alienation as comprehensively as possible.  We know that there are those who seek help for alienation who are deeply disappointed when they are told that what they are dealing with is not alienation but something else.  We know that there are people who become disheartened by this news and who find it difficult to understand what is really going on in the lives of their children.  Parental alienation is an incredibly difficult field to work in, especially when using differentiation routes which do not rely solely upon parental self reporting.  It would be wrong however, to see all cases of children’s refusing or rejecting behaviours solely in the light of one parent’s deliberate actions against the other. Of course this dynamic exists, we work with it all the time, but there are other reasons why children become resistant to post separation relationships too and it would be to fail children and you as parents not to acknowledge and work with that reality.

Our work is rooted in children’s reality, whether that be a reality which is forced upon them or their own truly experienced reality. Working out which is which is one of our first  aims when we meet children, helping them to heal is the next. Treating a child as if they are alienated when in fact they are not will not bring healing, similarly, treating an alienated child with traditional therapeutic approaches will not being healing either. Knowing what to do, when, why and how is a key focus of what we do.  Putting children at the very heart of everything we do, by educating, supporting and changing parental behaviours, using all of the means necessary to do that, is how we achieve our positive outcomes.

To support our claims of positive outcomes we have a list of parents who are willing to speak to others about the work we have done as coaches, therapists and court appointed experts. All of these parents are now enjoying healthy relationships with their children after our interventions, some of which have been strongly managed using the legal process, some of which have involved us working as coaches alongside legal professionals.  Before anyone puts their trust in our services we offer the opportunity to speak to parents we have helped and we make certain that every parent knows that in order to achieve those outcomes, we may have to challenge behaviours, change minds and tackle difficult dynamics.  By talking to other parents who have gone through this process you can be clear about what we expect of you as well as what you can expect of us.  The work that we do is not traditional talking therapy and it is not about being nice to each other all the time.  Neither is it about us doing the work without you as parents having to undertake some deeply challenging and difficult personal work.  Parental alienation does not arise in a vaccuum, it arises in places where there are conflicted dynamics and often unhealthy parenting patterns in one parent which cause the need to adapt expectations and demands of what a relationship with a child can look like in these circumstances.  Our goal is to liberate the child to have healthy relationships with both parents, if we cannot achieve that because one parent is unwell, our next intention is to support the child to have the relationship with the parent who is healthy.  We do not flinch from that duty and we do not flinch either from our responsibility as practitioners to identify unhealthy parenting patterns in one or both parents. We know that what Dr Childress says about mental health practitioners who do not take these things seriously is right. Having the courage to name the problems and create the circumstances in which change can take place is a responsibility that everyone who works at the Clinic must accept. To fail to do that is to fail the child and place them in the most impossible bind which is abusive and which risks entrenching the problem not resolving it.  Some of the parents we have helped will be working with us on our forums and you will be able to get advice from them about the journey to liberation of a child. For anyone who is considering long term or court based work with us, who would like to speak to parents we have helped, please contact us at the Family Separation Clinic, we can usually put you in touch with a number of parents within 24 hours.

For all parents experiencing the loss of a child, rejection, resistance and alienation we wish you a better year ahead, a more empowered year ahead and the opportunity to learn more about the difficulties you face with others who share your journey. Welcome to 2016, Parental Alienation Direct and the world of empowered parenting.

 

 

24 comments

  1. AdamEmilyLaurens Dad · January 2, 2016

    It is my opinion that “family law” barristers and solicitors are part of the problem and I for one have little interest in their views. Effectively they make money out of conflict and separation and in many cases abuse of our children. My ex wife’s solicitor comes into my gym occasionally …he assisted in abuse of my children…he won’t me coming for much longer.

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    • karenwoodall · January 2, 2016

      That’s fine, you don’t have to read what Solicitors and Barristers write if you don’t want to but we know that those who truly ‘get’ parental alienation are key to successful outcomes and we work with those people to achieve the healthy outcomes that children need. It is of little use pretending that those skills are not needed in cases of alienation because they are. If you don’t want to read what they write the simple answer is don’t. Parental Alienation Direct is about putting as much power into your hands as possible, first rule of being an alienated parent – know what you can change and what you can’t and use the power you do have and know what the consequences of that are.

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      • CG · January 2, 2016

        The website is good news Karen – although in some respects too late for us, in others, not. I look forward to the parental forums, in the hope of offering and receiving support and knowledge.

        Re above; the barrister in our case was from No.5. That particular person referred to charaltans (operating in PA support) who offer support, take your money, but do nothing (or words to that effect – it’s been a while). No irony there that that was exactly what this person did – for £600 an hour. I hope this person has a little more humility now in the face of any increased knowledge and understanding they may have gained. I would hate to think they are still operating the same way, and walking away again having participated in perpetuating and validating legalised child abuse. This person was just another in a line of people who said they were very experienced, and would get to the bottom of what was going on, and then didn’t, and walked away having further entrenched alienating behaviours and responses by validation.

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      • karenwoodall · January 2, 2016

        Hi CG, I am mindful of the fact that when you were in court we were unable to help you though we tried, it is interesting how No5 Chambers in Birmingham told you about ‘charlatans’ and then charged you £600 per hour (which is eye watering even in legal fee terms) to do nothing at all for you. What we are doing right now is working with legal professionals to help them to understand what it is they need to do to achieve the right outcomes for children, our seminars are about combining mental health interventions with court managed processes and avoiding the he said/she said trap of family court practitioners such as those employed by CAFCASS who are wholly set against the idea that alienation even exists, let alone has to be managed in a particular way. Mostly what we are doing is educating people to understand that in alienation cases it is about who can provide the healthiest parenting and how to assess and understand that, the legal professionals then work with us to help us to understand how that can be achieved in the court. I am delighted to say that we have a handful of people who I would say could really change the landscape of how we manage alienation in this country on board, people who are highly skilled, well regarded and at the top of their field, these are people I would trust to manage my own case in court if I had one. I know you are going to assist us on our forums and I very much welcome that, though you are one of those we could not help I know that you will be able to help so many others through the dedicated work you have been doing since then both with us and at a wider level to bring change for children. I am looking forward to working with you very much. K

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      • CG · January 3, 2016

        Thanks for your words Karen.
        The trouble with occasionally posting here in response to things that make me bite, is that it invariably sounds like I’m a permanently bitter and twisted person, and that’s not the case.
        A couple of points that I want to make though:
        firstly, re those CAFCASS practitioners ‘who are wholly set against the idea that alienation even exists, let alone has to be managed in a particular way’ – I think more dangerous are the ones who think they get it, and who play along with the official rhetoric that CAFCASS recognises implacable hostility (as they prefer to call PA), but their knowledge is very thin and shallow and they don’t understand how to translate (ascertain) the ‘voice of the child’, or know how to get beyond the charming behaviours and seeming plausibility of the alienating parents. What they actually do is inflict more damage by poking around in the wounds of the rejecting behaviours of the child, but then leave them exposed, untended and unable to heal, and in doing so they cause the behaviours of the alienating parent to heighten to re-inforce the supposed rejection. Dr Childress wrote a piece from the perspective of the rejecting child, whereby he in effect said, if you can’t rescue me, then leave me alone, as to be half in and half out is much more dangerous. Very many studies of domestic violence attest that the most dangerous time to be a ‘victim’ is just at the point of freedom and release, but before you’ve actually been able to step away.
        Secondly, the barrister in our case didn’t do ‘nothing at all’ for us. The barrister did what was asked, which was present the case in the right way, with the right language, with a stamp of approval and weight of title, as the judge had previously criticised the father for representing himself (my interpretation – if you don’t play by the rules we won’t let you play). However the Guardian had done an appalling job in his report, including stipulating that if his recommendations weren’t accepted by the father then the court should impose them anyway, along with other restrictions including the farther needing to apply to the court before making any further applications. A hideous damaging document. As a result the father chose to step away from the court process, to stop his child being further exposed to practitioners who were so woefully and dangerously damaging. The risk was to continue, since the only next step would have been a trial, lasting months in preparation, with the additional pressure that would put on the child, and have the child further exposed to the same, or more, practitioners who would deepen the damage, and have the child exposed to further pressure from the resident parent for all that time. Despite being asked, over and over, nobody within the court system up to that point had actually sought to do anything that would look at what was really going on, let alone offer robust solutions. So the father did the only thing that was in his power to do, which was to stop the proceedings and step away. As Solomon judges, if you love someone you set them free to live, and that’s what the father chose to do for his child. The barrister failed in their duty, in my view, by not using case law to direct the judge to make a correct order going forward that included more than just indirect contact, with no conditions for review or any possibility for enforcement of conditions on the mother to promote contact. (An aside here Karen is that before the hearing we gave some of the case law examples that Nick gave us to the barrister, who was disparaging about the source, although did then use one in a document).
        Sometimes you can not spend enough, and this was probably one of those times. It may have been better to have had a fuller report from yourselves, or Kirk Weir or similar. Certainly the lack of ‘evidence’ is put up as a constant barrier to validity of our argument in the work we’ve done post court. As if a damaged relationship between a child and one half of his family, where previously there was only love, and pages and pages of corroborating history, emails and texts showing hostility, and an evident loathing on the part of the resident parent, aren’t enough.
        The definition of madness is to repeat old actions, and expect the outcomes to be different.
        So we’re taking another tack, which is to live healthily, and hopefully, and in the present and the future, and to live the example we want to set for all our children, whether it’s ever recognised or not.

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      • karenwoodall · January 3, 2016

        and that other tack is incredibly important CG as you know and I wholly support you both in doing that. We are going to talk again the week after next and we can discuss all of this and more. The issue you raise there about fuller reports is the bit which is always missing when cases fail, getting a properly analysed psychological assessment is absolutely key in my view in order to override CAFCASS’s inability to see beyond their own subjective input. I absolutely get what you are saying in the rest of your post, I think your learning has been vast and you have much to contribute to others, which is not of value to your situation but immensely valuable to others and will be appreciated by many on here I know. The issue about the disparaging of case law from sources not identified by Barristers is often because they feel that their profession is being undermined. Fortunately those Barristers and Solicitors we have been working with are not of that ilk, they are human and they understand that things have to change and that change comes by listening. Dialogue is ongoing between FSC and key people in the legal field on this issue and this is why I want to bring this to the fore in 2016.

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  2. Francois du Toit · January 2, 2016

    Hi Karen

    We are doing a similar thing in South Africa and since we have similar legal systems, I think we may have many common causes and can help each other in terms of planning strategies and methods in rescuing the children from abuse.

    We have a very good following on our LAMP Agency page on Facebook already and our webpage with extended services will be online soon as well.

    Maybe we can co-operate?

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    • karenwoodall · January 2, 2016

      Hi Francois, yes of course let’s do that, if you would like to email me separately you can do that through office@familyseparationclinic.co.uk we will be very happy to direct people your way and have links to you on our new site.

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  3. lottehendriks1967l · January 2, 2016

    Same here, I’m currently building a Foundation for Victims of Narcissism in the Netherlands. Lots of us also have Alienation problems with our exes and many have lost their children because of that. I fully agree with dr. Childress’ idea of narcissism/borderline as the pathogenic factor in many situations. concerning Alientation. So I’m looking forward to your site, I have a whole group of victims who NEED help desparately. And I could do with your site , too, I haven’t seen my daughter since 2013. and my ex is constantly filing for sole custody, I’m out of my wits occasionally. So far I have won every court case, here it is Child Protection making a mess of things. And narcissism is a word Judges do not like, I’ve been told hundreds of times. Still, and as I was lucky enough to have his official diagnosis, I made clear, again and again, what narcissisme really means, what Domestic Violence means. And still I was winning. Now slowly things are changing, I’m talking about 10 years and now it seems to be sinking in. Child Protection was ripped to pieces by the judge last year. My ex will not be taken seriously anymore as all of his charges are false and I can prove it. All the time. So last time, I didin’t even need to talk about his narcisism anymore and I could solely focus on speaking about my daughter. I also sent the Court Childress article on Diagnositics, this was received with interest and concern. So, maybe I’m finally seen for what I am, an emotionally healthy grown up. Which my ex never will be. I tried so har for co-parenting, from the beginning, but heve come to realize my ex will never change and that he has a serious condition which is detrimntal, not just for their spouses, but also their children. I’m planning research on narcissism as a forensic phenomena, as it maimes those around and is very insidious and dangrous, also to children. And goes largely unnoticed in this country. You’re not even allowed to mention it in Court, they will make you out as the Alienator. Which is insane as I have never gone to court myself, it is my ex who is dragging me there saying I ‘m the crazy one and should be removed from custody. Telling the judge I was psychotic, emontionally unstable, irresponsible, all of this is proven untrue, and the Court knows it. Verdict will be on Januari 20th. I asked for a curator, an investigation into PAS from a psychiatrist with expertise in the field of narcissism, Playing therapy and visitation rights one afternoon per week. Apart from that, with my Foundation, I want to fight for my fellow-victims rights, so many of whom have lost their children. So those are my plans for the following year. I’m sure your site will find its way here in the Netherlands, too. May thanks for all your good work and your writings,, at least somebody CARES. Seasons greetings, Lotte Hendriks.

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    • karenwoodall · January 4, 2016

      Lottie I hope your outcome is the right one, you have come far indeed. You need to force it harder though if you do get an outcome that shows narcissism is at play, you need to compile your evidence base to support a protective separation protocol as Dr Childress advises and as we would advise if NPD was involved. Only this way will you break through if NPD is driving this because the children have to be removed from the toxicity in order to recover. I send you all my very best hopes and wishes for the right outcome, we will be delighted to link with your new Foundation and assist you and those you are helping in any way we possibly can. K

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      • Lotte Hendriks · January 6, 2016

        Hi Karen, in this country,mentioning narcissism in court is not done. You are immediately taken for the alienator. You’re accused for throwing mud at your expartner, slaundering etc. Allmost everone here has warned me not to bring the NPD up, even when there is an official diagosis. I didn ‘tlisten too this advice and did bring it up and slowly things seem to be changing. Suddenly (I even n sent a copy of an article by Childress, which was very muchh appreciated by the judge) once the narc-discussion had tken place, there was much more room for me to speak to the judge about my daughter’s needs and my worries about her. I have a good feeling about this case. Child protection advised for me not to see her, they were ripped apart by the judges and told off for doing a “flimsy” investigation. And I ‘m citing! Be sure your post will find its way into my Foundation and some other organisations in the field that I am connected with. As for sole custody; I don’t think that’s feasible in this country. Yet. I’m preparing to change that, but that is on an academic level and I will be writing about narcissism as a phorensic problem, not a familycourt one. so keep me posted and thanks for your brilliant work. Lotte

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  4. daddyhardup · January 2, 2016

    Karen, best wishes for the New Year. Parental Alienation Direct sounds very exciting, and I know you have many other pressing commitments also. But please, please, finish that book! This blog is priceless, but inevitably the content comes in date order and not therefore in a very systematic way, and the archive is not that easy to use.

    Saw my daughter for twenty minutes on New Year’s Eve, my first and last face-to-face contact of 2015 (though I had some good phone contact for a while over the summer, until it was suppressed). She was with her mother, so was very guarded, reluctant to speak, and with her thumb in her mouth at first (she is 10 now) and twisting her fingers anxiously towards the end. But she was not hostile, she accepted Christmas presents from me, answered questions briefly but politely, and allowed me to read a couple of poems to her (Edward Lear and Lewis Carroll, her favourites). I’m still hanging on in there and refuse to give up!

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    • karenwoodall · January 3, 2016

      The book is in the publication process now DHU, it has been edited and refined and comes out at over 120,000 words, a full ten chapters devoted to understanding, coping and healing with a concentration on strategies, skills for communicating with alienated children, managing your case in court, dealing with alienating parents, disconnecting from unhealthy relationships and more. We are in the hands of the publishers from now on but we are told it won’t be much longer. I am sorry to hear that you only saw your daughter the once this year and for such a short time, it is such a painful experience when your relationship is controlled in this way.

      I will be transferring the materials from the archive across to the new site gradually where it will more accessible to you and grouped in subjects so that you can pick out what you need more easily.

      I hope it will be helpful to you. K

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  5. Stephen · January 3, 2016

    Hi,
    Best of luck with new site.
    I contacted you recently but have got no reply, I will try again.
    I take heart and learn from this blog.
    Its such a complex issue and so difficult to try and explain to family without sounding like a conspiracy nut.
    I think many of us would find it very beneficial if you could write a very sane and simplified blog post aimed at family and friends to explain what we are suffering. I’m having a hard time with that and get so frustrated hearing that’s it’s an age thing or they will grow out of it or they will come round eventually. It causes division at a time when I need as much support as possible.
    Just a thought but I think it would make a very useful blog post, im reluctant to show half the stuff on the Internet as it’s too in depth or written with agressive language.
    Best of luck again and a small voice showing appreciation for the work you and contributors put into this blog, it does help.

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    • karenwoodall · January 3, 2016

      Hi Stephen, if you contacted us after 22nd December it will be the coming when before you hear from us. Just checking you emailed us @office@familyseparationclinic.co.uk – that is the general enquiry address, appts@familyseparationclinic.co.uk is to book appointments. On Parental Alienation Direct there is a section for wider family and friends to help them to understand how to help, there are articles about the issue of suffering and loss on there too. Looking forward to seeing you over on the new site. K

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  7. CG · January 4, 2016

    Karen, picking up on Stephen’s comment, and adding one of my own.
    Funny how things happen. Over the xmas period we have met and talked, by accident, to a couple of people known to us for a number of years, whose children have contact, albeit limited, with my husband’s son. On one occasion he wasn’t mentioned, as it wasn’t that kind of a hello – with the other we stooped and talked and had a deeper, at times quite personal conversation. The dad had a sporting connection with my husband’s son, and he inquired about his health as he’d heard he was poorly (Karen you and I have talked about what we think is going on there). My question is – we are tired of pretending in these conversations that things are not as they are, but are struggling with the language. My husband ended up saying his son was being abused, but that’s too strong/heavy for people who aren’t in the inner circle of knowledge. Sympathy was expressed, along with the familiar platitudes (he’ll grow out of it etc etc), although we privately know some of the dynamics are understood as the mother has had dealings in the past with that person, and the sporting thing ended badly so there’s awareness there.
    But we need a phrase to use that lets people know this is not of my husband’s choosing, that he’s done all he can but the court system is flawed, that this is not something deserved, and its not his son’s fault as he’s suffering the effects of hostility. But we also don’t want to disparage the mother, as then that just invites side-taking which helps no-one and makes it easy to dismiss the reality, and what we really want is to open up the possibility for advocacy with those people my husband has always had a good relationship with. We’ve hidden away for so long, and there are no natural advocates due to the situation (no contact with any other family and no mediating friends). The mother exterminates all who don’t fit her world view, so there is no-one, literally no-one who would take her on.
    We’ve played around between ourselves with phrases such as – he’s being abused as a result of hostility (but if we don’t say its the mother’s hostility then by default will people assume its my husband’s?), and has been forced to make a choice between families, but Karen we’d like your view as to how to sum this up, if you can come up with something?

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    • Kat · January 5, 2016

      I think the same goes here as when dealing with CAFCASS and the like, talk about behaviours but don’t give them a name. If people think a part of what you are saying is right, then they will know things are not as they should be. However, if you name it, then they will have to trust your judgement and that they are less prepared to do. To most people an alienating parent’s behaviour is so extreme that they will think you are exaggerating. Having said that, my experience is that fathers are not judged too harshly in this situation. So many people have a brother, cousin, male friend who at least for a time was denied access to their children and though they may now have a working court order there is sympathy there, even if there is little understanding.

      Because alienation involves manipulation and the public facade is not a reflection of what happens behind closed doors, many people may have an inkling that something is not right, but they cannot quite put their finger on it and hence prefer to keep quiet and stay out of it. It is private, so they don’t want to intrude. If the skeletons ever fall from the closet you may well find people suddenly coming forward, even going as far as “I should have contacted social services/police/other authority when such and such happened x years ago, because that was not right”. Reality is that even if they had, it is unlikely it would have changed things much, but it can be very important for the children at that stage to see outsiders to the family speak what is wrong.

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  8. PapaMissingKids · January 4, 2016

    I just canNOT wait for this website to be up….so looking forward to it!

    Some very, very interesting discussions here.

    In the fight against PA, various corners need educating; CAFCASS/SS, Judges, Solicitors, Barristers, the parents, and even some so-called-experts! Clearly this website is going to be an effective soundboard to achieve that.

    In my experience, from court, the other side (o/s) barrister (a qc) was incredibly amazing! Even I dropped my jaw listening to him speak sometimes. And I understand there are some EVEN BETTER than him!

    An issue I worry about is this; the o/s barrister I mention knew much about alienation. He clearly knew this was a classic case of PA. He knew it. I know he did. But he worked for the PA causing people, and for money, ensured the abuse continued. Likewise, the o/s solicitor. As I understand it, she had actually alienated her own children against their father and she helped the mother no-end to make this as deeply entranched as possible so that the matter would keep on continuing and therefore she would make as much money out of it as she can – and she did! The case must have cost the o/s about £250K over 3 years.

    Clearly these are quite heartless and ruthless lawyers here, preying on the miseries of families that need help, support and assistance. So the issue I worry about is this: maybe some lawyers will actually studdy the legal advise given and then FIND THE LOOPHOLES from the advise given on the website to help the alienating parent!

    Even the lawyers giving the advise – are they truly totally and sincerely committed to only ever supporting the targeted parent in court? When I have spoken to the clerks of some impressive and well-known barristers, I was told that those barristers actually do work for both sides of the fence.

    I tell you what would make a big difference in the fight against alienation – to make an example of an unethical lawyer! I would love to be able to be in a position to take the o/s solicitor to court for unethical case handling! The payout for my kids in that case should be millions! How cool would that be. And something like that would rock the legal world enough.

    Perhaps it will only be if the so-called-professionals are threatened with punishment will they get their act together. And here, I am talking about cafcass/ss, the lawyers, and the judges.

    …..(rant over) …..

    A good, effective, simple language, type of explanation of PA would always be useful. The challenge is, can it really be explained simply? After, those boffins at cafcass/ss, the judges et al still don’t understand it!

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  9. Anonymous · January 4, 2016

    Hi Karen. I have been waiting for your book for some time now. In fact from Dec 2014 – Jan 2015. I’m doing my Phd Research in male violence in my context and your blog and articles are one the areas of my research. So I’m really keen to get a hold of you book. Any idea by when it will be published? Or if it has already been, then I need to get my hands on it quick fast. Thanks n blessings

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    • karenwoodall · January 5, 2016

      Hi Someone, yes lots of people have been waiting patiently, we think it will be about eight weeks now til it is in our hands, the publication process is not quick to say the least. The writing was finished in September, the publication process now takes its time but you will receive the book through the post as soon as we take delivery. Not long to go. K

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  11. Lee Gordon · January 5, 2016

    Hi Karen

    I have read your blog/comments for the last year.

    As someone who has been alienated and had no contact with my three children for the last four years I have found your knowledge and insights invaluable.

    If someone had told me that I would not have any contact with my children before I was alienated I would never have believed it possible, not in a million years. But here I am, having gone through those very dark times in the first few years, feeling wiser, healthier and more informed and positive than I ever could have imagined. That was only possible due my wonderfully strong and remarkable new wife and being able to really understand parental alienation through specialists such as yourself

    I know that realistically I will have to wait for my children to grow (they are 11, 16 and 17) and move away from the influence of their mother before there would be any possibility of one or more of them trying to contact me.

    I wholeheartedly admire and support you and those that you work with in shining a light on the poison that is parental alienation. Please keep up the incredible work that you do. It makes a huge difference, take it from someone who knows.

    Best wishes for the year ahead, Lee.

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  12. justiceforkevinandjenveybaylis · September 18, 2016

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