Understanding Parental Alienation – The Book

Our new book is called Understanding Parental Alienation: Learning to Cope, Helping to Heal.  It is published by Charles C Thomas Illinois (2017) and can be ordered from Amazon shortly.

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8 comments

  1. Eric · August 28, 2013
  2. Jim Hynes · October 15, 2013

    Hi Karen
    My name is Jim- not sure where to say thanks but your blogs and analysis of what is going on in family services and the courts was a huge inspiration to carry on in my attempts to see my kids. After numerous allegations of domestic violence, which were all disposed of in court and four years of utter heart break, 27 court hearings, 5 investigations by social services and 3 by cafcass with one commital for prison (as a consequence of the police overruling the court on account of issues the children made known to them and them returning to my home and me then being deemed to be in contempt) our children were finally allowed to move back their home with me in November 2012 having been wrongfully removed in January 2009. Ultimatley they were the ones who fought hard to have me back in their lives – my daughter recently saying to me that I didnt get them back – they got me back. I am desperate to try to be as inclusive asI can be with mum despite everything but that is difficult with mum refusing to acknowledge or work with me towards a more shared parenting arrangement. Much of her time is spent trying to continue to undermine the childrens relationship with me, my partner and her children (our four children being very close). I have read much of your book on seperated families but wonder if there is anything more I can do vis a vis getting mum back on board such that the hurt of the past can be put behind us and the needs of our children become the predominant focus.
    I remember recalling a dark moment having been told by Social services that I should, for the sake of the children step out of their lives – all in a report based on an ‘interview’ with me that had never happened, and it was the knowledge that others such as you knew differently that kept me going.

    Again thanks so much for the inspiration

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  3. Flynn · April 28, 2015

    Karen- thank you !!

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  4. The Devil's Advocate · September 7, 2015

    Jim your story personifies others who have suffered likewise. I am researching this more locally in West Cornwall and daily I receive as a trained Samaritan issues which you write about in variation.

    Most of my clients when asked what they feel about their family situation want two fundamental realities.

    1. The return of the children into a caring and loving family where they know that they are
    then doubly loved, supported and protected. Where both parents have to act to themselves with parental responsibility.
    2. To have the current legislation changed to include the repeal of the Children’s Act 1989 and to incorporate the protection schedules/sections into a new and all encompassing legislation to fundamentally include responsible parity or equality of cooperative parenting…(not just shared parenting). They want both parents to be examined for their ability to be parents which is the most important job ever, and if incapable train to do this and it would (through the like with associated therapy) provide for greatly improved parents and weed out those with personality and narcissistic personality disorders to provide relevant therapy before becoming an engaging and balanced parent.

    Not much really when you think of the benefits to 1/3 children currently being abused and the savings on unnecessary Court cased would be incalculable!

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  5. The Devil's Advocate · September 7, 2015

    One more point brought to my attention in regards to Jim’s position above. Re, Local Authority; use any means to bring them morally and legally to their knees. Use all methods available re: Data Protection Act and Court Transcripts.If LA knew that they were going to be sued by up to 20% of all households in their jurisdiction then they would soon join Karen Woodall’s classes to retrain all their Children Services Offices…who are public servants and who similarly don’t like the national press knowing that they are aiding and abetting domestic violence (including that of associated parental alienation) due to polarised actions of parents who are effecting this (cryptically) as well as overt criminals of the opposite extreme who are quite rightly charged criminally as those who act abusively as parental alienators.

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  6. Jayne · December 10, 2015

    Hello Karen

    I am a children’s guardian (please do not hate me) involved with my partner in his own private law proceedings which are now in their 5th year! It’s ironic because I act as a public and private law guardian yet I am powerless in terms of our own private law case. I now truly know what it feels like when no ones believes you even the guardian who simply states the children must be telling the truth.

    When I met my partner three years ago his children ran into his arms and told them they loved him they now say ‘all we won’t for Christmas is you dead’ he has endured as have they 5 Cafcass officers, 32 court hearings, play and family therapy 78 positive contact sessions, positive report from independent social worker and no findings at finding of fact. 3 years in magistrates court and 9 judges! And get again as contact progresses to overnight for the third time more allegations. I’ve seen three beautiful children destroyed emotionally, confused and so full of anger. Yet the Gaussian believes every word the children says even in light of all the evidence.
    I am at breaking point and can only imagine how these poor children must be feeling. To have feelings of such hatred for a man that adores them is heart breaking.

    I feel how an innocent person must feel in death row, desperately wanting to prove ones innocence when nobody is listening. Trying to protest and being scutinised. I genuinely have a pain in my heart, I feel such loss and sadness for these children whose childhood has been stolen and who have had positive childhood memories replaced poison and mistrusted.
    We are still in the process contact will be cancelled again no doubt another hearing more trying to defend ourselves for something we have not done. I have no doubt the damage has been done.

    The saddest lies in the fact that my partner is a great man and father and without his children he is not whole and I am not sure what lies ahead for us with a gap that can never be filed.

    J x

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    • karenwoodall · December 10, 2015

      J, I don’t hate children’s Guardians please don’t think that I am simply hating on them as a group I am not, I work with some fantastic Guardians who have helped to save children in the situation you describe, the Guardians I fear and reserve my contempt for are those who faced with the suffering of children, the complexity of their withdrawal and the reality that the rejected parent has done nothing wrong, still act in a manner in which their political ideology drives their decisions. Those people are despicable in my view, but Guardians per se are not.

      My heart goes out to you for you are someone who works in that post and who is watching the power that another Guardian has to damage your partner and his beloved children. This is a position not unlike the one I find myself in sometimes, because in some people’s cases you can do so much good but in your others you are a helpless bystander. It is a ghastly thing to understand what needs to be done but be powerless to make it happen on a wide scale.

      I hope you will find on here and on our new site coming as soon as we get downtime from our too busy working schedule, the help you need. If you want more help or assistance you can contact us at the Family Separation Clinic. Very best Karen

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  7. Pete · January 21

    Hi Karen, I read the posts and cried. So like the struggle I and my two little children have endured over the past 5 years. Guernsey is so corrupt with the Family Courts, lawyers and Child Services etc all joined together to destroy the targeted parent. Ive see my two children’s happy faces slowly being turned to misery and I’m powerless to do anything. I’ve seen the fear in my little Princesses eyes when I dropped her off and my ex wife’s partner was there…the abuse my little boys endured but still nothing done. The false allegations of sexual abuse I have endured and my daughter aged 3 subsequently being examined invasively on two occasions with no charges being brought against the mother for false allegations or child abuse re examinations. I could go on…

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